Your Journey Starts Here
How We Work
Therapy with Haven is collaborative, reflective, and grounded in understanding how your patterns formed within the relationships and systems that shaped you.
Therapy can look like many things. Some therapies focus on looking for solutions and implementing strategies to contain, change, and manage outcomes or emotions. Our work helps you understand your responses- not manage them.
By listening to yourself in a new way we aim to help you access your natural compassionate, healing energy; understand the protective motivations of your reactions; and move from insight to alignment.
We believe you have, at your core, what you need to heal. We view things in a non-pathologizing way, meaning no part of you is ‘bad’ and all parts of you are welcome. We strive to help guide you to listen to yourself in a way you never have before.
Haven therapists use Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy in combination with psychodynamic psychotherapy, art and play therapy, and systems work, using an intersectional lens.
Our Specialties
Our therapists specialize in systemic and relational change, helping you improve your relationship with yourself, your people, your child, and the systems you move in (work, school, culture, etc.).
Relationship Concerns
conflict
distance/disconnect
parenting struggles
people pleasing
saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’
self-abandonment/boundaries
communication struggles
Sadness & Depression
Shame/Guilt
Therapist Support
compassion fatigue
activation in session
Anxiety
general
social
perfectionism
panic/phobias
selective mutism
Trauma
upsetting memories
relational
attachment wounds
systemic oppression
neglect/abuse
numbing/dissociation
Burnout/Overworking
Overwhelm/Feeling Chaotic
Self-Criticism/Inner Critic
ADHD
Self-hatred/Self-esteem
inner conflict
Functioning Concerns
school/work issues or conflict
behavior concerns
bullying (school/workplace)
intersectional oppression
advocacy needs
feeling stuck
Who We Work With
We work with thoughtful individuals, couples, and families who feel stuck and want to improve their relationships and/or their functioning.
Many of our clients are capable, responsible, and deeply committed people- but somewhere along the way, they learned to disconnect from their own needs or change how they move in order to survive or succeed.
We help our clients listen to themselves in a new way, to understand their protective motivations so they can function with more compassion, connection, clarity, and alignment.
We work across the lifespan and believe change can happen more efficiently when more than one member of a system is involved.
Working with the connection between parent and child we help parents who feel lost, disconnected, and overwhelmed; or who want to better understand interactions with their child.
We also have a passion for working with therapists who want to better understand how they show up in the therapy room.
What to Expect
Start with a FREE 20-minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit and would work well together.
If we’re a good fit and you want to proceed, you’ll choose how you’d like to meet: in-person or online and schedule your first appointment.
In your first session, as we get to know each other, we’ll work to understand your story and how Haven might be helpful in your healing journey.
From there we’ll work to build a trusting working relationship, as we support your journey at a steady, nonjudgmental pace where all parts of you are welcome.
Your treatment is tailored to meet your needs. And we provide a brave space for you to get to know your story in a new way.
Live with confidence, guided by curiosity and compassion
- Internal Family Systems
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You would be a good fit for Haven therapy if you:
Want to explore, in more depth, why you move in the world the way that you do.
Want to transform the relationship you have with yourself, your partner, your child, or your family.
Are ready to actively engage in your healing and are curious about what might be possible.
You might not be the right fit if you:
Don’t want to use IFS therapy, are not wanting to explore the past, or are not ready for therapy.
Want a therapist who only listens while you talk, doesn’t interject, and doesn’t guide you deeper.
Are not ready to make a time, energy, or financial investment.
Are looking for short-term symptom relief without deeper exploration.
Are a high-acuity client who needs crisis services or in-patient treatment.
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapeutic model that views every human being as a system of protective and wounded inner parts guided by a core Self.
IFS helps people access their undamaged, compassionate Self, which knows how to heal, and from that inner leadership, understand and transform their parts, fostering both inner and outer connectedness. (Source: The IFS Institute)
Though it may sound completely foreign, the IFS way of thinking is very natural. Humans are complex. Consider this thought about a new job: “Part of me is so excited to move up at the company, but part of me is terrified I won’t be good enough.” Listening to both of these thoughts- that’s the start of IFS work.
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Therapy with Haven looks a lot like what you might expect with some things you might not.
Sessions can look like talking, but can also include art, sand play, or other ways to express yourself that don’t rely on talking.
Haven therapists are compassionate, thoughtful, and committed practitioners who collaborate with you on your journey. You’re the expert on you and we’re the experts on the process.
We are genuine and down-to-Earth, recognizing we are all part of this human experience. We are committed to serving others. We welcome all parts of our clients.
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During your free 20-minute consultation you are encouraged to ask about the training and qualifications of your therapist or parenting specialist.
One of the cornerstones of ethical and quality therapeutic work is your therapist’s ability to stay in their lane. If your therapist is not qualified to help you, they will discuss this with you as soon as they become aware. Haven can help with an outside referral if we aren’t a good fit or are not qualified to treat you.
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Haven therapists will work with children and teens with a few caveats. We believe that minors have the right to have a say in their treatment. As such, if your child is adamantly against participating, we will recommend alternative avenues or structures of treatment.
We also believe no client exists in a vacuum (i.e., systems matter). Change happens more efficiently when we change together. As such, parents are required to be involved in the structure of treatment. At a minimum this looks like support between sessions. The recommendations will vary and will be customized to your needs. Your therapist will discuss this with you in more depth.
We encourage you to submit a question or schedule a call to learn more.
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Part of Haven’s philosophy includes looking at and considering systems. A system is a set of (2 or more) interacting, interrelated, or interdependent parts acting together as a unified whole to achieve a common purpose or goal.
In therapy this refers to your internal system (your thoughts, behaviors, Self), a family system (such as a couple, immediate family, or extended family), or a greater system (such as a school, your workplace, or your culture).
Part of our approach is rooted in understanding these systems and considering how they interact with and relate to each other and how this contributes to relationship functioning.
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